How I Know Your Mom Triggers TF Out of You
In this episode, I get into why knowing your mom triggers tf out of you also tells me the many other symptoms you might be experiencing from being externally anchored.
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Previously called The Shift. Same show, same feed, new name.
For people who feel stuck even after trying to heal, regulate, forgive or fix themselves. Short episodes on resentment, boundaries, people-pleasing and the reason you never fully feel okay: your safety is anchored outside of you.
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How I Know Your Mom Triggers TF Out of You
In this episode, I get into why knowing your mom triggers tf out of you also tells me the many other symptoms you might be experiencing from being externally anchored.
Oct 29, 2026 · 12 min
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S2 E1 · 13 minThe Hidden Reason You Never Fully Feel OkayWhen one of your anchors starts to wobble, that’s when the overthinking, people-pleasing and resentment kick in. I walk through why.Ep 20 · 8 minHow Externally Anchored Are You?A gut check on how much of your safety still lives outside you, and what the spectrum of external anchoring looks like.S2 E2 · 18 minHow to Become Internally AnchoredThe story of how I became internally anchored, a practice you can try today and a peek inside The Liberation Portal.
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